Living several thousand of miles away from home since I turned 20, I have always thought that I am an independent person. But two children later, I have come to the conclusion that I still need my mom. I don't know what I would have done without her when we had Sean and she has been a tremendous help with Kieran. I guess it took having a child to make me realize, I will always be her child too. Not that she treats me like one, but I can always count on her for an opinion, support and to just listen when I need to vent.
But I can see that my relationship with my mom is very different from my brother's relationship with her. It may have something to do with my being overseas and my brother being across the street, my being the eldest child, my being a daughter and he is a son or just that we have different personalities...who knows!
I just hope that when they grow up, my kids feel the same way about me. That they can count on me, no matter what. That they include me in their lives and don't make it their goal to fly out of the coop as soon as possible. Don't take me wrong, I want them to be strong, independent individuals but there is nothing wrong with being doting sons, right? I cannot promise that I will not voice out unsolicited advice on relationships, friendships, etc. But I promise, it will be given out of love. How just like a mom...I can almost hear myself, years down the road going "I'm only saying this 'cause I love you."
I wonder how many other "mom-isms" I will be subscribing to in the future.
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